I Corinthians 1:17-21, Ephesians 5:21-33 God gives us His wisdom for healthy positive relationships, especially in family relationships. Submit to each other. Submission is hard for wives. Loving naturally is easy for them. Loving day in and day out is not a natural, deliberate act for husbands. Submitting is respecting. Respecting comes easily for husbands. Loving and respecting is God’s order, God’s wisdom for healthy marriages. Marriage is messy. It brings a lot of challenges and problems. but God’s wisdom provides a way to get through the constant tension — the messiness.